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Nfrp is like my online friend network. so i have a big favor to ask friends at nfrp
please NO JOKES. this is very important to me personally
im asking you all cuz its hard to ask my real life friends. heres my situation'
i got a text from a friend that said they decided to do a transition between genders. this is new to me. im very lgbt accepting but this is my 1st trans encounter or coming out for me. the problem is i liked them as in like like.
i never confessed and when they opened up as bi a year ago i was unsure if i should....i didnt. i decided to box my emotions
now they want a sex change once they save money. im so torn up right now..all the emotions i thought were gone came back.i want to confess now for closure but would that be selfish on my part?
please help me....since theyre name starts with D we can call them D.
just do it, can`t be selfish cuz it`ll be the other person`s choice to still go for it or not. If they decide not to do it but havn`t changed their priority such as still really wanting to do it but doesn`t just because they think they are not supposed to: It`ll be stupid but even so if they still want the change at the aftermath of it all then I still think they should do it.
Though if they change their priority so that you`re a factor above all else then it`s okay if he decides to not go for the change if they don`t want to. Because they`ll be going with what they desire most. And desires change for everyone, like you may not want something that you wanted 10 years ago. So don`t worry about it much and just go for it and tell them if you really want to.
I wont be attracted to the gender hey switch too. so no.
Im still considering things as this is just something new to me. but if they switch I cant be with them that way but I can still be a friend.
Then I would not confess to D it would only put a strain on your relationship, if she/he decided to be with you instead of get the surgery she/he won't be ever truly happy and if she/he does get the surgery instead of being with you it will probably make things uncomfortable between you two. I would just act as a friend to D and help her through this change.
Post by Beautiful Rogue on Jan 29, 2013 16:13:17 GMT -7
Honestly, you're being selfish. It's their choice whether or not they want to do this, I understand if you like them, but if they aren't comfortable being whatever gender they are, then your feelings towards them won't change.
Besides, if you really love the person, maybe you still will after.
im not hoping to hook up with them or stop them from transition. Originally I just want to confess hoping for nothing in return but just to get if off my chest as they say.
I will take in everybody words before as I still am unsure what to do. I just want a few more ppl to post if possible before I make my decision.
EDIT Problem resolved....I just saw them after a few months. I didnt feel anything. Probably just all my old feelings returning from the past when i was told about my friends status. Seeing them now was the closure i needed so I didnt need to admit my past feelings.